Marriage is hard. There are times your marriage may experience conflict. Some marriages have disagreements about finances while others may struggle with intimacy issues. Marriage counseling can help you and your spouse understand the issues. When you and your spouse seem to argue more than converse it could be a sign that something is causing the tension.
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Here is a list of signs that marriage counseling may be needed:
- Lack of communication
- No longer engaging with each other
- Frequent arguments about finances
- Infidelity
- Increased arguments
- Decreased intimacy
- Parenting differences
- Impending divorce
It has been noted in numerous studies that the success rate of marriage counseling ranges from 50-70%. If you and your spouse have a desire to work through any issues to restore your marriage then you may choose to engage in marriage counseling.
The success rate of the counseling will greatly depend on how much you and your spouse put into the process. If you engage and truly work through the things that seem to be causing you to drift apart, then you will more than likely experience a positive outcome. The counselors at Mission Viejo Christian Counseling are ready to help you and your spouse start your journey to a healthier marriage.
Since most of the issues in marriage revolve around finances, children, and outside relationships many of the topics discussed during marriage counseling will address those topics. Some counselors may choose to cover topics that can remind you and your spouse of why you were married.
The counselor may ask you to discuss the interests you share and the dreams that you both seek. These topics can give you a sense of togetherness as you begin to realize the positive strengths in your marriage. You and your spouse may be asked to share what you feel has changed and how can it be resolved.
Even though it seems that being honest is the best thing, there are a few things that limit progress.
You’re wrong. Remember, the advice of a counselor is for your benefit. If it’s not something that you want then it won’t work. Telling them they are wrong only lets them know an issue needs further discussion.
Don’t tell my husband/wife, but… This is a definite eye-opener for the counselor. As a marriage counselor they are not allowed to take sides nor can they withhold information from your spouse.
I’m done, I want a divorce. Giving an empty threat in counseling such as this only gets more counseling. If you really wanted to be done, you would not be engaged in marriage counseling.
The first thing to understand about marriage counseling is that it is best if you and your spouse both attend the sessions. This is how the counselor begins to understand the dynamics of your relationship.
The first session is mainly a Q&A session so that the counselor can get to know you and your spouse as well as how your household functions. These questions will also cover your childhood and extended family.
A marriage that experiences an affair can create a very tense situation for the entire household. However, a marriage does not have to end in divorce after an affair. If you and your spouse choose to work through the issue or issues that may have caused the situation, you can save your marriage.
It has also been noted that once a couple decides to pursue marriage counseling after an affair they experience a stronger relationship in their marriage.
After you leave the counselor’s office you and your spouse will need to be committed to working on your marriage. You must learn how to implement the advice and skills you discussed during the sessions. When you and your spouse work together to complete the tasks given by the counselor you will begin to open the doors of bonding in your marriage.
A few simple things you can do outside of counseling include practicing better communication, setting aside time for intimacy, and making time for weekly check-ins.
If you and your spouse feel that your marriage would benefit from marriage counseling, please contact the counselors at Mission Viejo Christian Counseling. The counselors are ready to help you get your marriage back on track using faith-based techniques.
Get connected with a Christian Counselor
Please contact our reception team at
(424) 438-2888